"Why is it that other people manage to achieve what they want, but whenever I try', it never seams to work out right? I always doubt myself and compare myself unfavourably.”
Confidence is how you feel about your ability to perform certain tasks. It is related to your self -esteem, which is the way you feel about yourself. A background of stability and warm relationships, patricianly in childhood, helps to boost self-esteem and confidence, but if things go wrong and you feel under stress, confidence can ebb away.
Confidence has a tendency to spiral either upwards or downwards. If you have a positive attitude you are likely to perform well, which makes you feel good. Feeling good, in turn, increases your confidence so you can give an even better performance and gain more confidence. Conversely, if your confidence is low, you will be easily discouraged, resulting in a poor performance, which will make you want to avoid the situation. This leads to feelings of failure and lower confidence
If you are lacking in confidence, begin by looking for small steps you can take to gradually rebuild a feeling of usefulness and effectiveness. This can be done by taking time and using hypnosis to focus on your successes and strengths. Suggestions of looking at your own values and abilities help re-establish your own worth and skills.